Interviews

dv: It’s a pleasure talking to you; we've been big fans for some time.  Tell people where you’re currently located and whether you have any travel plans for the rest of 2018.

EO: My home base is in the Tampa/St. Petersburg area of Florida but I also love to travel. At the moment, I'm planning a tour of South Florida in October.

dv: Is Tampa where you started your career?

EO: Yes, I'm a Florida native and this is where I first started working in the adult industry. I grew up here and left to go to college in Georgia, then lived in Colorado for a few years. But I guess what they say is true – once you get Florida sand in your shoes you'll always come back!

dv: We can understand that; Florida is a lovely spot.  Were you an aspiring Dominatrix in your childhood days or did that come about later?  Would the ‘schoolgirl you’ be surprised to learn that this became your profession?

EO: Although I didn't pick up my first flogger until I was in my thirties, I don't think the younger me would be at all surprised at the direction my life has taken. I've always been 'sex obsessed'; back in college it was a running joke among my friends that whenever I entered a conversation the subject would shortly turn to sex. And yes, this is still true today. 

I always took the lead in the bedroom, too. And even before that, I was the bossy leader of the gang who made up games for the neighborhood boys. I wasn't immediately drawn to the macho whips-and-chains aesthetic of traditional BDSM – I am The Silk Domme after all – but I always had a huge kinky streak and a very open mind.

dv: Well, you apparently come by it honestly, lol.  What was your initial introduction to the scene and how did that evolve into your decision to make this a profession? 

EO: I was always into trying new things in bed but I think what turned me into a professional kinkster was meeting my first sissy sub. I'd gotten into selling My panties when I was a young mom as a fun way to earn some extra spending cash.  I found that I enjoyed taking photos and making videos more than I ever could have imagined. When I met this guy whose fetish was to be all dressed up like a pretty doll and made to do housework, I was fascinated. I quickly realized I would make a great Domme.  There are a lot of subs out there who long for a more sensual and seductive sort of female power as opposed to the brutal 'Ilsa the She-Wolf' stereotype.

I have a very feminine style; I adore lingerie and hosiery and playing sexy dress-up. I've got a huge fetish for silk and I also have a serious fetish for consensual non-consent. So, I was a natural fit as a Mistress to cuckolded girly-boys. Then once I discovered what a rush it was to be totally in control, I made a conscious decision to learn all the whips-and-chains stuff. I wanted to have as many tools as possible to enthrall and annihilate My prey. 

dv: Enthrall and annihilate – well put! Who would you consider your heroes in the business and who have been mentors?

EO: There's no reputable pro dungeon in my area where I could learn and do sessions so I had to learn everything as an independent Mistress. But I was lucky to meet a woman very early during my career who became My mentor; She introduced me to the protocols of the leather lifestyle and taught me the basics of how to wield hitty things. I'm not going to mention Her name because She's retired now and living very discreetly, but She was once a premiere TG Mistress here in Florida.

Later on, my heroes were all Ladies whose style, philosophy, and work I admired. I've learned a lot from Goddess BellaDonna; she's like a Mama Hen to many of us in the biz. The jet-setting Madame Caramel was my guide and inspiration to make the leap to become an international Mistress. I've long admired the style and character of Chocolate Domme and Ms. Sasha Conceited, and right now I'm a big fan of some of the brilliant Women in the FinDom scene, including Lorraine Cocoa, Mixtrix Fix, Ceara Lynch, and Violet Doll. There are so many Dominas out there who I admire that it's hard to give a short list, lol! 

dv: Those are definitely some well respected names in the industry. And we love that someone taught you the basics of how to wield ‘hitty things’. Lol!  Do you recall your very first session?  Tell us about some of the most memorable ones you’ve had.

EO: Oh yeah, I remember my first paid session. I'd played a bit at a few parties before, but this was the first time I met a guy to abuse and have him give Me money for it. I remember my husband being so nervous about what I was doing that he insisted on meeting the guy first. I'm sure it hugely enhanced his humiliation to kneel there naked, getting inspected by My husband, hehehe! But I think my favorite part of the scene was when I sent him down the hall for ice, wearing only his shorts and My panties, with a rock-hard erection. That sure taught him not to forget the ice again. ;p

Many of the memorable scenes I've had over the years took place at the monthly play parties for crossdressers that I used to host. I completely understand the need for discretion most submissives have, but there’s something extra thrilling about the humiliation of public exposure. Private club parties are a great way to walk the line between those two things, and these parties were full of horny Tgirl sluts, so it was often just a big kinky orgy.   

Then there was the time I mummified a sissy girl in saran wrap, the time I beat the poor guy with a malformed dick until his balls were black and blue, the many times I fucked my own collared slave with a strapon in front of everybody, and of course "Elbow Deep Rich", who was into fisting and liked my hands a lot. Fun times!

dv: Great stories; those are memorable times indeed!  What do your favorite scenes involve? 

EO: Making him beg to be abused and thank me by paying for it. I adore many other activities and aspects of kink but these two things have to be present for Me to really get off on doing a scene. I think making men beg triggers the power rush for Me and gets Me mentally ‘wet’, so to speak. And most men really define themselves according to what's in their bank account – it's even more psychologically important than penis size, though perhaps not by much – so, having a man sacrifice that very important part of himself to Me makes Me feel truly worshiped and valued.

Beyond that, the best scenes are with subs who really understand themselves, what they desire, and what their limitations are, but who are also really willing to let go, let Me take control, and push them to their limits. And of course every scene I do involves my unique 'Silk Domme' style of sensual, playfully sadistic teasing. It's just who I am.

dv: What sort of facility do you have?

EO: My 'Silk Domme' style is very sensual and intimate, and doesn’t necessarily require a lot of special BDSM gear, so it works pretty well for Me right now to hold My sessions in hotel rooms. My hometown is a tourist destination so there are plenty of nice hotels in the area and I do have a couple of favorites. But I also try to maintain contact with folks who have pro dungeons and rentable play spaces in every city I travel to. It's nice to have the extra equipment and specialized furniture handy when you want it.

I used to have a very well-equipped transformation salon for Tgirls with adjacent BDSM play space. I did a lot of crossdresser makeovers and photography back then. But, I gave up my studio a few years ago to concentrate more on travel and family. I do miss it sometimes but it can be a pain in the butt (and not the fun kind) to maintain a location like that when you're away much of the time. When I get around to opening another brick-and-mortar slave training studio (which I'm sure I’ll do eventually), it will be more of a community venue, with space that can be used by other Dommes for filming and doing sessions.  My absolute dream is to have a sort of tropical version of the famous OWK or the English Mansion.

dv: That’s a very exciting dream!  What do you think people assume about Pro Dommes, or more specifically you, that is just not true?

EO: I have to say, one thing that drives me nuts is how people in the 'lifestyle' scene assume Pro Dommes only do it for the money. I've rarely met a pro who was not genuinely into the kinks She practises. And they don't seem to assume that about male kinksters who try to make a buck off their fetish, for example, by making floggers, giving rope lessons, or whatever. It seems like the same tired old anti-woman, anti-sex worker sentiments to Me.

About Me specifically – people are often surprised at how sadistic and evil I can be. I'm so feminine and courteous that they think they're dealing with a pussycat until I have them tied down and start to show My claws.

dv: Whoa, we bet you’ve surprised a sub or two by showing your claws when they weren’t expecting it! Tell us about your site.  What services do you offer besides real time sessions and where can people find you on social media?

EO: I do so much in addition to real-time sessions! I do Domination via phone and webcam, and of course, I make porn, including custom videos and audio recordings. Custom porn making is so cool; I think it's the way of the future. Guys are sometimes put off by the upfront cost of custom porn, but if you compare the cost of a good clip to the cost of a live session and think about how many times you're going to enjoy that clip, it's easy to see how much bang you get for your buck. Ahem.

I do have my own website, EvilOpal.com, and you can also find my BBW Femdom fetish porn on IWantClips, Clips4Sale, and ManyVids. I do phone and webcam Domination sessions through NiteFlirt, and I also send frequent juicy mail messages to my slaves there. I recently made a Femdom choose-your-own-adventure story for them, which was super fun and super hot. 

I'm also very fond of Domination via text message, and you can text me through NiteFlirt or through SextPanther. On social media, you can find me on Twitter, Tumblr, Facebook, and I recently joined Instagram. Really wherever you are, just search for 'Evil Opal' and I'll probably be there!

dv: Well done; you seem to have all the bases covered.  How do you balance everything in your busy life and what do you like to do for fun?  Do you have any hobbies?

EO: I'm terrible about being obsessed with work and my family is always after me to relax more! But there's nothing as interesting to me as kink. Combine that with the allure of making money and I'm hopeless.

But I do have many other interests. I enjoy movies, and I'm especially a sucker for cheesy horror flicks. I like to read, mostly non-fiction business and marketing books and sci-fi novels. I play D&D. I love gardening and I'm very into art and architecture. I enjoy working in my own garden and also visiting other gardens, museums, and fine houses. I’m fortunate to be able to express my artistic urges with porn making and sometimes I also play around with non-naughty photography and digital art. I'm handy with power tools as well, and I occasionally get involved in household DIY and furniture-making projects. I've designed and built a full set of kitchen cabinets before, and My own bed at home is My very own creation. It's designed to be perfect for vigorous fucking, lol!

And of course I'm a huge aquaphile. I love, love, love being in the water – swimming, canoeing, soaking in the tub, walking in the rain. Living in a tropical climate only a few miles from some of the country's best beaches is splendid for Me, and I go to the beach as often as I can. Sometimes I even take My slaves out to the beach for FemDom fun.  

dv: Sounds like you’ve got it made.  What are some of your future goals?

EO: My Number One goal is to create the tropical water paradise I've always wanted! You'll see tons of hot poolboy porn once that happens. *wickedgrin*

Another goal is to make enough money to bring some of my friends and loved ones along when I travel. My daughter is an artist and I so look forward to showing her the world! Ultimately, I have plans to do some serious investing in real estate. I'd love to own a portfolio of vacation rentals that were friendly to kinksters and porn makers, among other things. And last but definitely not least, I'd really, really like to meet one (or more) boys who are worthy of wearing my collar and joining my household as live-in slaves.

dv: Those are great goals and we have no doubt you’ll succeed. Thank you so much for your time, Opal.  All of us at dickie virgin wish you continued success!