Dominatrix, Hedonist, Lover of Weirdness, Contessa Zoe Aspasia: Multi-Sensory BDSM experiences, Creative Humiliation, Light to Heavy Play
I’ve been based in Toronto off and on since 2007 (15 yrs Experience), and enjoyed heaps of kinky filth and weirdness from the times of Erotic Craigslist/ Backpages ERS and have experimented with materials and tools, practicing + learning to expand on what I can offer in play, scenes and experience facilitating. I’m a sadist, feeding off the experience of the submissive, the dance - energy - change of state - holding the line in intense experiences - introducing newbs to multi sensory, immersive experiences. I’m known for my creativity, strength, weirdness, accuracy (corporal), sadism with a smile and perverting and twisting everything. I like a creative twist or bit of weirdness in my scenes, always experimenting to keep things interesting.
Note: Not creating any live in-person scenes with new subs till April 2020 then I'll have a better idea of my availability. Priority will go to extended scenes especially with windows for me to practice a good handful of edge play skills, predicament bondage + larger bits of weirdness/ decadence.
Submit and be taken far from your present experience, dip a toe into your kinky dreams, learn to negotiate kink or be "trashed and used" in relation to our mutual interests. I offer private scenes/ sessions and duos Domination with a great variety of other providers in the city to create very unique playtimes. I play with experienced subs and newbs as well, trust and communication build through experience in “submission”or “servitude” starting with shorter sessions (1.5- 2hrs) before the offer to set up extended scenes (3-7hrs, to 12-24, to multi-day) as I do with the “experience sluts” that I’ve played with before or regularly (or experienced subs with multiple references and great communication).
My extended scenes and experiences are scenes or sessions sandwiched between outings, snacks, stretching, taking advantage of extended time to enjoy a shuffling of experiences, solid back-up plans and channelling of/ working with energy post-play and the needs of there body before you "re-enter the world" again. Deeply immersive experiences with Myself and occasionally other providers have taken all those present to fabulous "places". I balance kink, hedonism + sadism with hard work, delayed rewards, appreciating the little things, and being in a multi-sensory present: theatre, city hikes, amazing restaurants or ingredients, rare things to try, fantastic providers to meet. I strongly believe in variety in kink/sex/ intimacy and everything else, as well as channelling or paying attention to the types of energy we experience during and after play and the unique needs of each state.
As 2020 takes off I have a few kinky goals in the forefront of my desires (some group scenes and extended adventures), but I also have time to see a good number of newbs, or new-to-me players for traditional one-time sessions for Domination, "experience collecting, trying something new etc. As one of my big projects comes to a close I'll have the availability to see and regularly "support" two more subs who want to meet weekly (RT online or otherwise). All "sub contracts" had regular windows to review and adjust arrangements to work with life's chaos and constant changes.
Booking: I book several days in Advance, with a Deposit: that’s the best way to set up time with me. I’m often booked several days ahead with scenes, and spend a decent bit of time in them (extended scenes can range from 6hrs to 24+, bear that in mind when you wait for a response). I offer live time scenes in person and a variety of ways to communicate when we aren't in the same city or timezone. Recent references are an asset and are very very helpful for edge play requests. If you have practice negotiating scenes or verbalizing your wants and hard boundaries in short form that will help too. I screen + negotiate, then we sort out a time that works for both of us, the deposit is secured and we're all set. You may need to be able to text me on the day of to confirm- just so you have an idea of My process.
Private Scenes/ Sessions: (90 Minute min)
* Spanking + Striking + Genital Strikes or Bondage + CBB/ CBT
* Butt Stuff + Fisting + Foot Fisting + Fingering
* Scissorholds + Breathplay + Smother + Chokes + Figure 4s
* Bondage (Hemp/ Jute Rope, Cotton or Synthetic/ Paracord)
* Creative Humiliation + Dehumanization + Human Furniture
* Bondage + Mummification + Predicament Bondage
* Puppy Training + Pantyhose Encasement + Sub Positions
* Foot + Leg Domination + Kneeing + Kicking + Foot Smothering
* Clothespin Zippers + Tickling + Scratching + Sharps
* Medical Play + Sounding + Play Piercing + Saline Inflation
* Costumes + Odd Themes + Bright Colours + Odd Insertions
* Human Tea Tray + Tea Ceremonies + Pour-Overs
* Golden + Scented Sock + Panty Huffing + Crud Eating
* Extended Adventures + Outings + Aftercare + Butt-Plugged Theatre
* Caning + Single Tail + Leather/Vinyl/ Rubber Floggers + Evil Sticks + Rattan
* Minty Corporal + Rancid Golden + Violet Wand, + Wax + WAM
* Latex + Leather + PVC + Pleather + Dresses + Catsuits
* Also known for butt gnomes, human turkeys, rubberchicken stuff, mimes, paper bag pain sluts . .
. . . and a lot more. Seriously.
Toronto Spring Scene/ Session Themes that I’m leaning heavily into:
- Tea Tray Training (Human Furniture, Domestic Training, Bondage, Butt Plugs, Humbler/ CBB/ Genital Bondage)
- Predicament Bondage (Crawl to Daddy, earn MistressCock, breathplay, fisting, head scritches)
- Sudsy Foot Massage (Craft Beer or Soda)
- Scissoring + Extended Breathplay
- Puppy Training + Positions
- Creative Humiliation
- Unique Group Scenes
- Hole Training for a Fall Group Scene
- Plucking, Hair Tearing, Waxing,Shaving
- Single Tail Whipping (light to heavy)
Other Live Meeting Options:
Golden Coffee Meet (30 Mins). A fresh golden brew to start or end the day
Interviews/ Consultations (1 Hr) Let's grab coffee/ tea + head for a stroll to chat kink. Bring your own thermos to impress Me.
Distance Play: Great in combination with play in Toronto for folks who live in Ontario but not near enough too get to town as often as they’d like or may not have the physical ability to play or travel for periods of time. Comes in many form (audio, text +occasionally video)
You can learn more about me or Contact Me via my Website: www.aspasia.ca
See a few of the things I've been doing recently on Twitter @aspasiathegreat (it's slightly censored but hold onto your hat if you're a newb, cw: blood, needles, ballbusting, edgeplay)
Text Me via Sextpanther!! www.sextpanther.com/aspasiathegreat
Address Me as Contessa, Goddess or Queen, Let's get weird. :D
~Aspasia~
