Charismatic Michigan-based beauty Mistress Kiara wishes you a Happy December and hopes you all had a very lovely socially distanced Turkey Day. She doesn’t have any big news to share because She was a bit under the weather in November and it seems to be hanging on into December as well.
Mistress Kiara couldn’t update as much as She would have liked due to Her illness, so to make up for it, She’s running a huge sale on Her AVNStars platform! She even set 12 spots for 50% off. This is the biggest sale She’s ever run, and subscriptions are going fast so get them while you can. Happy Yule from lovely Mistress Kiara!
Communicate With your Domme/Mistress!
So, instead of Mistress Kiara’s usual ‘here’s what’s been going on with Her’ blog, She’d like to address a topic that is especially important to Her – communication in FemDom and fetish play. This is on the forefront of Her mind, because as you may have noticed, Her NiteFlirt goodies are all missing. This happened as the result of a sub’s inability to communicate. She won’t go into details, but in a nutshell, the sub couldn’t express what he wanted in their FemDom relationship and reported Mistress Kiara to NiteFlirt when She didn’t provide the service exactly the way he wanted. She’s in the process of re-uploading all of Her content to Niteflirt, but it’s all still available on Mistress Kiara’s other platforms. The moral of the story is that this could have very easily have been prevented with proper communication.
If you’re familiar with Mistress Kiara’s shop page, then you’ll notice that one of the content categories is ‘required purchases.’ Mistress Kiara has posted often about Her continued and ever-growing success as a Domme. She’s been around since 2005 and definitely knows Her stuff. These are ‘required’ because they help immensely with, you guessed it, communication. Mistress Kiara’s Fetish Checklist gives Her an idea of your likes, dislikes, and limits, whereas the Rules and How to Approach a Goddess documents give you a better idea of how to communicate with Her as your potential Domme (and how not to).
Mistress Kiara knows that some of you consider purchasing and filling out a checklist to be boring or unfeeling; robotic even. If that’s how you feel, She’ll happily schedule a session during which the two of you can discuss everything in all three of Her documents. Mistress Kiara is not opposed to this means of communication; however, She can guarantee that it will take longer (and cost more) than if you just purchase them. Just be sure to inform Her from the start that you would prefer to pay for a chat session as opposed to the above goodies (which, btw, are all up on NF again). Mistress Kiara has said it before and She’ll say it again until Her face is as blue as Her sexy eyebrows: yes, Dommes are powerful, but They are not mind readers!
Every sub and Domme is Unique!
Mistress Kiara feels She shouldn’t have to say this, but perhaps some subs are so new that they don’t understand. Not all subs are the same. Not all Dommes are the same. In fact, many don’t like the terms Domme and sub. Some prefer other terms like Top/bottom, Goddess/worshipper, etc. This is one of the things She loves so much about BDSM and fetish play. It allows everyone to enjoy and express themselves however they like!
Of course, since we are all unique individuals, communication is even more important. Mistress Kiara speaks to about 10-20 different subs and potentials per day on average, and She finds you all different. So how could She possibly know exactly what you seek unless you tell Her?
Fetish Likes, Dislikes, & Limits
Mistress Kiara puts a lot of energy into figuring out the likes and limits of Her subs for this reason. If She assumed you were all the same, then She’d slap, punch, and choke you out with Her legs like She does to doughboy here, LOL! But that is clearly not the case. Just as doughboy has expressed no interest in homewrecking, many others have no interest in sissification or blackmail. But Mistress Kiara can’t know this until you communicate it to Her.
What do you like? What do you dislike? What are your limits? Do you enjoy having your limits pushed? If so, which ones? Do you have a safe word? A series of safe words, for example, are quite common, such as red, yellow, or green. And before you say, “whatever you want, Mistress”, keep in mind that Mistress Kiara has some pretty fucked up fantasies Herself. If every sub who said, “whatever you want, Mistress” really meant it, She’d have a mansion, a horse, a classic GTO, and an Aston Martin by now! Nothing is a bigger turn off than to hear a sub say this, only for Mistress Kiara to state Her demands and have him say “wellllll…. not that though…” ten times in a row.
Everyone has limits when it comes to fetish play. If you don’t know yours yet, that’s fine, provided you openly and honestly communicate this to Mistress Kiara, and then tell Her when/if you discover them.
What are you?
There are many different categories when it comes to serving an online Domme, but Mistress Kiara groups most into two; subs and kinksters. It’s important for you to know which category you fall into so that you can communicate this properly to the Pro FemDom you consider serving and/or sessioning with.
Submissives: Mistress Kiara sees a submissive as someone who truly wishes to serve. A sub thinks of his Domme first and will often neglect his own wants and desires in favor of Her happiness.
Kinksters: a kinkster or fetishist enjoys a specific kink or set of kinks and wants them to be indulged in a specific way. Mistress Kiara considers most people who enjoy foot fetish to be kinksters. They want to see a specific type of foot or footwear in a certain way, regardless of what Mistress Kiara does or does not enjoy about the fetish itself.
Mistress Kiara could go on and on about how important communication is in a FemDom fetish relationship, but She thinks you get the point.
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New Pictures & Clips
Mistress Kiara updated Her Gallery this month with all kinds of hot new FemDom pictures for you to worship – and they’re all free! But remember to pay your cum tax if you make a little mess… LOL!
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